Your power is in your presence.
Think about it.
When you are projecting outwards into the future, where are you?
Are you in your body?
Are you grounded in what is real?
Are you present to your surroundings.
Are you bringing everything you’ve got to the task at hand?
Everyday I go through the same battle as the alarm goes off at that ungodly hour, well before the sun comes up.
“Stay in bed. Sleep longer.”
“Get up.” “Nooo, just sleep a couple more hours.”
“Get up, this is what you want.”
A very old man went out one day on the land beside his house and began planting fruit trees.
A young man walked by. “What are you doing? the young man asked.
Walking downtown in Victoria yesterday, I met a First Nations man named Willy, panhandling in the streets with his hat sitting in front of him on the ground. With a big smile on his face, he said hi and instead of continuing on my merry way, I stopped and said hello.
The next 20-minutes seriously made my day.
I dropped out of school at 20 to start my first business.
That was 12 years ago.
My 20’s were brutally hard as I tried to figure out how to make it in this world, how to “become a man,” how to offer my gifts, how to run a business properly, how to make my dreams real, how to heal my issues…
All these pursuits added a great deal of weight and stress to my plate.
I made incredibly ungrounded, unintelligent choices with my business, trying to make “big things happen” because I didn’t have the wisdom or patience to allow things to unfold at their own organic pacing.
I sought to prove myself to my family and the world. To make a name for myself.
I had many humbling lessons…
so many epic failures…
and a whole lot of hardship.
Fortunately, I am a stubborn Taurus with a lot of passion and an unwilligness to give up.
But I KNOW my journey could have been easier, more graceful, prosperous and fun.
I was cocky. I wanted to “figure it out on my own.”
I now realize, it would’ve been more beneficial to find mentors, seek out help and guidance from others further along on the path than me, and to adopt a strong desire to learn from everyone.
I believe our 20’s is a time for doing the deep soul-searching kind of work. To discover who we are without our parents and without our peers at school.
My guess is, it would’ve saved me a lot of heartache and strife.
If you’re in your 20’s and “searching” then sign up and show up to each interview.
If you know somebody in this stage of their life, pass the link on and encourage them to go.
This was a very fun interview for me, as I got to share some of the hardships I grew through and how I got through my 20’s stronger and more “Me” than ever.
I’m looking forward to sharing in a conversation with you, after you’ve listened.
If you want something, then go f*%*ing get it.
Visualizing the end result and waiting for the Universe to deliver is not enough to change the world or get results.
Success requires showing up. Day in and day out.
It requires showing up when you don’t want to, when you resist the hell out of it, when you’re hung over, when you’re exhausted and wanna quit or when you’re scared shitless.
Indecision is procrastination…
and indecision is to make the decision to do nothing.
Take a risk, take some action, follow through and do what you say you’re going to or want to do.
There is no harm in trying and failing.
Failure will give you cool scars and stories to tell around the campfire later down the road.
Life is impermanent and so is failure. Both will pass you by and how cool will it be to look back on your life and remember all the things you tried and failed at, as well as the things you actually succeeded at?
You’ll have neither if you stay in that space of indecision though. You’ll just have a bland blur of mediocre memories and nothing all too special to smile at on your death bed. (live a little already)
Given that you’re gonna die, don’t you think you should at least try?
Because it is far better to struggle for a life you aspire to than to struggle in a life you’re dissatisfied with.
This is your adventure, don’t let someone else choose your path for you.
Decide what you want.
We all struggle.
So why not struggle for your own cause?
Why not struggle to create something that you want?
Why not struggle for a cause you truly believe in?
Most of us are caught in a hamster wheel.
We struggle for somebody else’s vision.
We struggle for things we don’t believe in.
We struggle to build a life we don’t actually want.
A week before my baby boy, Sauryn was born I walked off the Newlands Golf Course in Vancouver after shooting a -3, 69 for my playability test with the CGTF (Canadian Golf Teachers Federation).
I had officially become a certified golf instructor.
It was my 12th birthday that I played golf for my first time. I was instantly obsessed.
At the time, I was hardcore into both baseball and soccer. My parents told me I couldn’t do them all. I chose golf.
Mommy needs to sleep.
Daddy needs to work.
Baby likes to bounce.
Big visions require big sacrifices.
Truth is, most people aren’t willing to sacrifice:
to bring those visions to life.
I can’t say I blame them. I’ve often questioned what the fuck I’m doing.
Spending my life working towards lofty goals. It seems like madness, it honestly does.
Yet at the same time, it feels like the right thing to do.
In some crazy way, it actually feels like the best thing to do with the majority of my time on Planet Earth.
Perhaps it’s my ego tricking me as it searches for:
Or, maybe it’s me just doing what I’m hardwired to do.
I have these natural abilities as a leader, creator and entrepreneur.
I feel it’d be a waste to not use them for the betterment of others.
I know there are many days where I wish I was wired to want a much simpler existence. Today was one of them.
But there is drive that keeps me motoring forward (sometimes it even drives me a little crazy).
“Just take the next step. Go a little farther. You’ve come this far, see what’s over the next mountain.”
Is the effort worth it? I guess I’ll find out, won’t I?
So far. It’s made for a helluva a story and the story just keeps getting richer.